I have been in both sides of world, making 6 figure income once upon a time and being unemployed and at home with kids now. Being on rich and poor sides, now I understand both sides a little better. There are many hard working and motivated people, who are without a job for months, or worse lot longer. We know a few of them in our lives and I am sure you do too. How do you help? What do you say and how to be supportive without hurting your relationship in long term.
1. First and foremost it is important to listen to them, and be there for them, if they want to talk. Call them periodically.
2. Offer leads and project ideas to them, do not keep asking if they got a job yet. When the get it, they will be sure to share the good news.
3. You can give/drop off cooked meals, groceries sometimes.
4. Sometimes, instead of just asking them for help ideas, just do it. Many times, most people do not like to bother anyone with their issues nor can think in this situation what to ask for.
5. Babysit kids at your place or take them out. Money troubles can be often hard on couple, so it may give them time to talk out issues and kids may like the change/outing to be welcoming.
6. If you must help with money, make sure it is money you do not need in near future, as unemployment effects linger on for a long time even after one gets a job. Usually unpaid money can bring resentful feelings among close friends and family or avoid giving money in on most cases. Relationships are more important than any money that may cause issue.
7. Just because they seem fine and do not talk about issues, do not assume they are doing fine. Many people are not comfortable talking about money or personal problems to even family members.
8. Gift in form of basic necessities is always good such as shelter (if situation arises, and they lose a house/rental), Food/water, basic clothing needs, medicine and basic kids education.
9. Occasional outing to restaurant, museum for kids can bring relief, as they must not be doing any activities that cost money living on little entertainment.
10. Be supportive, do not criticize if you do not see aggressiveness in pursuing a job/project. It might be that someone is working hard behind scenes and he/she may seem to have a laid back attitude on the surface, which might not be the case.
11. Do not ignore them, thinking they may need some time alone. Do not feel bad, if they are not calling you sometimes, as sometimes private life can be much harder and draining to leave time for social calls, although most people will keep basic sanity outwards usually.
12. You can be supportive in many ways by just being there. You do not have to spend money or give money to them. Some of our best memories of friends and family’ help is being there with no money involved.
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